As I’m sure you know by now, Kelly is currently out of action and so she let me (Sammy, from over at Little Fickle) guest post on her blog this week, which I am more than a little bit excited about.
If you ever read my blog, or follow me on Twitter, or even if you’ve met me for any length of time beyond a “hello” – you will know I had -and indeed continue to have – a perpetual fear of growing up. We’re all thinking it, I’m just being brave enough to say it; Being an adult is nowhere near as easy as American films make it seem. So, I figured that I’d give you the top five tips that I’ve learned about being an adult in the (almost) three years I’ve allegedly been one.
1. People who seem to have it sorted?- Don’t
There will always, always be people that you meet and they seem to have their lives on track. In your twenties, this is a weird scale where on one end you’re sort of envying everyone living in a constant paralytic state, and in equal measures, you’re wondering what you’d decorate your house like if you were one of those girls at the other end married with a baby. In your twenties, it seems like absolutely everybody has their crap together except you. It’s a vicious lie, you’re all stumbling through the darkness alongside each other. Don’t put too much faith in how amazing people’s lives are based on Facebook, it tends to just be the highlights.
2: Learn stuff
Seriously, though. Read the paper once in a while, learn to iron, learn to cook at least one decent meal (I can’t recommend Mac’n’Cheese enough). Take pride in learning to do things for yourself, I learned the hard way that when your parents go on holiday it is not cute to be nineteen years old and not know how to use the alarm/washing machine/central heating properly. This actually goes for all ages, but especially if you don’t know how to do these kinds of things when you’re “officially” an adult.
3: Say NO
I never, ever learned to say no and – all to often – this meant that when I was still in school, I spent too many nights sitting in pubs with virtual strangers whilst my friends got off with boys. I hated it, and it wasn’t until I didn’t have to see these people five days a week that I realized I should have said no earlier. Teach yourself to say no when that’s what you want to say – there’s no shame in being able to turn down offers that you’re legitimately not interested in.
4: Trust in fate
People say when everything seems to be going downhill fate has a funny way of turning it around and it’s true. Things seem to go more rapidly wrong than I remember them doing when I was a teenager, but so far it’s always seemed to work out in the end (touch wood, right now.) Have faith that destiny will take you where you need to be, in the end (oopsy, this got a little deep, didn’t it?)
5: Just Go with It
In the words of Jennifer Aniston. Life is never going to be perfect, and you’re going to hit some sort of quarter-life crisis/existential crisis at some point, but you know what? It’s cool. Don’t stress it, as dealing with how to overcome an existential crisis may not be as tough as some people may think. Many of us might want the answers to some of life’s questions, but there comes a point where we realize that life is tough and everyone’s journey is completely different, so there is no definitive answer to life. In ten years’ time it’s more than likely you’ll look back at this point in your life and it will look, in terms of the bigger picture, amazing. Everything is sliding into place right now, even if you can’t see it doing so.
So there are my tips, I’d love to know yours!