To inspire you to greatness, follow my step-by-step guide to take charge and be your own Blair Waldorf.
Hello my pretties!
Netflix brought Gossip Girl into my life this fall, and wouldn’t let go until I fully devoured every episode. I started the show out of a love for fashion, but it was a love for all things Blair Waldorf that kept me watching.
Since meeting Blair, I have stumbled across several ladies vowing to ‘become Blair Waldorf’ and it got me thinking of the fundamentals of this character and what makes her so great. She’s beautiful, fashionable, strong, scheming, smart and always comes out on top. No matter how often life (and love) kicked her down, Blair kept fighting — and won!
To inspire you to greatness, I drafted the ultimate step-by-step guide on how to become the Blair Waldorf of your own life. And no, you don’t need a massive bank account, Chuck Bass or a chic apartment on the Upper East Side to do it.
How to Be Blair Waldorf
Step 1: Inspire Minions
Though her methods weren’t always the nicest, Blair Waldorf made the girls around her want to be her – dawning the birth of ‘minions’, or followers.
There are people who follow and there are people who lead. Blair Waldorf: is a leader. Charge your way to the front of the pack and forge ahead into your future. Inspire those around you with your confidence and ambition, not to mention style. You can be a trendsetter, you just have to believe in yourself.
Your energy will inspire the people around you!
Step 2: Love Audrey Hepburn
Blair Waldorf was an adoring fan of the grace and beauty of Audrey Hepburn and often examined her problems through the lenses of her films.
Blair understood the value of the classics and that there’s no problem an Audrey Hepburn movie marathon can’t conquer. Just as it’s important to be a leader, it’s also important to recognize the qualities of someone you admire and emulate them in your own way. We all need to admire someone else. It’s humbling!
Step 3: Work Hard!
Blair Waldorf was an extremely hard worker and believed to get ahead: you have to put in the hours.
Whether it was in school or in her career, Blade made sacrifices to get ahead – refusing to let anything stand in the way of her own success.
In school or in your job, always do your best work possible. It will only advance you further in achieving your goals!
Step 4: Only Love as Equals
One of my favorite Blair Waldorf scenes is when she puts aside her love of Chuck Bass in favor of making a name for herself. She refused to be seen as the ‘woman behind the man’ and fought to be the woman out front and center on her own merit.
“I have to be Blair Waldorf before I can be Chuck Bass’ girlfriend,” she told him before drawing the line and going her separate way.
Don’t put yourself second in love, if you’re in a relationship that’s going to limit your own star power…don’t be afraid to take a break. If he loves you, he’ll understand and wait. Chuck did, and that makes their reunion at the end only merrier because they achieved their dreams separately and reunited as true equals.
Step 5: Embrace Your Inner Bad Girl
Blair Waldorf fully embraced her inner bad girl, and there’s something admirable in that. Her character was two parts, good and naughty…and she worked both parts equally to achieve her dreams.
Sometimes we have to let loose. Other times, we have to buckle down and get to work. But when it’s time to let loose…unleash your inner bad girl without hesitation. We don’t need to shame our naughty side into remission. Having fun is just as important as laboring over your work!
Step 6: Love Your Family
Blair Waldorf wasn’t all ambition and hard work, she also had a warm side and highly valued the relationship with her family. Throughout the show, you saw her fight for her mother and her father, as well as the traditions of her favorite holiday: Thanksgiving.
Family and traditions are important, so love and hang onto them tightly. And, as always, laugh with them. At the end of a long hard day, your family will always be there to love and support you.
Nothing is more important than family!
Step 7: Take No Prisoners
Blair was also very cunning and took no prisoners in life. When someone wronged a loved one, she came back with a vengeance – and then some. When someone wronged her, she made them pay. This entails a bit of embracing your inner bad girl but is very important: avenge yourself and the people in your life. When someone does something hurtful, don’t let it slide. This is hard and takes a lot of strength, but by not letting it go you will assure it doesn’t happen again.
Everyone loves a door mat, someone they can walk over and push aside – but don’t be one. Stand up for yourself, your friends and your family to lay out your expectations and demands on how you are to be treated. It will earn you the respect you so deserve!
Step 8: Have a Dorota
We all need a Dorota! And no, I don’t mean a maid (although that might be nice). I mean someone who is always in your corner – rooting for you 100 percent!
We all need friends who believe in us and want us to be happy. Likewise, it’s important to be that friend as well.
The friendships in our life are important, and take hard work – but are so valuable. Surround yourself by people who love and support you, and will be there for you whenever you need a shoulder to cry on – or a kick in the butt.
Step 9: Succeed by Being You
In the end, Blair Waldorf became a success. What did it take? Following her gut instincts and being herself!
Blair’s goal to become a success in the fashion industry was often challenged. We watched her flounder while trying to live up to the expectations of other people. Only when she took a leap of faith in herself, did she achieve this goal…even when we didn’t expect it.
When you work hard as yourself – it will always get you further than when trying to be someone else. Embrace who you are and use that as fuel for your success. There’s greatness inside of all of us, we just have to find our path and charge ahead!
Step 10: Always Have a Good Headpiece
And last, but not least, Blair Waldorf is no one without a good headpiece. Be it a headband, ribbon or tiara – she was always adorning herself with beautiful hair pieces.
And why not?
A hairpiece can pull together a look in the most unexpected way. Blair simply would not be Blair without something decorative in her hair – and I love her for it! So next time you’re out, look at the hair accessories rather than merely walking straight pass them. You might be surprised just how great you feel wearing something sparkling atop your crown 🙂
Well Dreamers, who says there isn’t value in television and Netflix? While watching, see if you can find inspiration from your own life.
No, we definitely don’t all have to be exactly Blair Waldorf – but we can use qualities of her life/story to help us define the life we want for ourselves.
Stay stylish and chase your dreams!